Greetings!
So I know Destiny’s Child has a lot of sisters singing “Let me cater to you”, but how many are really singing “I got your slippers, your dinner, your dessert and so much more”?
Better yet, how many are singing, “He is in charge. He is the head of the household. I will be a submissive wife. I never wanted to be anything other than a wife.”
Are these statements dared to be uttered in 2013? Yes they are! Some Black women are choosing a life based in the home. Can a woman be fulfilled with being a housewife or does she also need a back-up plan? You decide.
Here is another stimulating interview conducted by Black Married Women Blog. Enjoy!
Welcome our new contributor Rebecca Muhammad.
Rebecca Muhammad describes herself as a woman of God, a co-creator, a sister, an Aunt, a wife, and a mother. She says, “I am me”.
Black Married Women Blog (BMWB) asked Sister Rebecca Muhammad was marriage always in the game plan. She states:
“Yes. For me marriage was always in the game plan. Being raised by my Mom and watching her be a homemaker to 13 children all I knew was being a wife to someone someday. Also being taught how to keep house, rear children, take care of a husband, sew, cook , and in general how to act at home and abroad in my Muslim Girls Training and General Civilization Class at the Mosques from a child to an adult walked me into my future role as a wife. If I could give any advice to a sister it would be never marry to escape your current situation. Make sure you have a skill or trade something marketable or something you can start a business from to fall back on if ever needed. Don’t try to change anyone but yourself once married. And be thankful and remember daily the little things that took place and brought you joy during marriage because it’s extremely easy to become dissatisfied with what you don’t have or need and then separation begins and a slinking Devil can creep into your mind, heart, and marriage. You must learn to rise above your emotions. You can express it but don’t stay in it, don’t let it consume you to the point of leaving a mental and emotional scar between you and your husband.
BMWB: What is a good wife and has any of your views of marriage changed from single-dom to matrimony?
Sis. Rebecca: “A wife is Patient, Acceptant, Willingly Submissive, Loving, Forgiving, Strong, and did I say Patient. I brought willing submissiveness to my marriage. I told my husband before marrying him as long as he stayed on the course of Allah (God), you know not Hislam and strived to encourage me to stay the course then I would marry him and I would submit to his right as the head. This was the major factor in us being equally yoked."
"After getting married I realized your marriage will be whatever you work at making it to be. If you want an abusive one you will make it, If you want a loving one you will make it, If you want a spiritual one you will make it, just mix together your own recipe and start working at it. What caught me by surprise is that the world doesn’t revolve around one person or two there will be many moments when you will have to be an individual growing by yourself. You will have to seek assistance through patience and prayer from Allah (God). It is not your spouse job to make you happy or fix your problems. If you want things to be a certain way then work at it. Something else that caught me by surprise was the way I was raised and the things I witnessed as a child between my parent’s marriage transferred into my marriage some good and bad.”
Leave a comment below and there will be more to come with this beautiful sister, God willing...
~Sis. DeAndrea
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